• The sign of an insecure know-it-all: in small groups, they lecture, rather than converse.  A slight tension is in the air.
  • Social climbers are dismissive and harsh towards those beneath them; subservient and fake to those above them.
  • To predict someone’s future behavior, observe their past actions.
  • The human mind is a rationalizer - more lawyer than scientist.
  • With trust, put-downs indicate love and affection between men; without trust, the opposite.
  • If there's a difference between what someone says and what they do, believe what they do.
  • No reaction is as seductive as indignation.
  • We are two minds: the experiencing self and the remembering self.
  • Use negative visualization as a hack against insatiability.
  • Many male groups only talk while doing other things.
  • People vote with their feet.
  • Humans like stress, when controlled.
  • Familiarity breeds un-appreciation.
  • Genes play an under-appreciated role.
  • Human's unique trait: our ability to tell each other stories.
  • There are more differences within groups than between groups.
  • Having everything you want, all the time - sex, food, affection, control - leads to coddling and laziness.  Enjoy it, but limit it.  Relish some struggle.
  • Watch body language for truth.
  • If a deep hope matches a firm conclusion, odds of delusion are 10x.
  • Those who are too nice, too appeasing, violate a rule of healthy relations: equality, and mutual skin in the game.
  • The passive aggressive are sensitive souls, dying to stand up for themselves.
  • Reasonable people can disagree.
  • Everyone is selfish - to some, selfish acts are pro-social and natural.  These are the “good people."
  • You hate in others what you hate - and notice - in yourself.
  • Confirmation bias: an intellectual's highway to overconfidence and self-deception.
  • Most advice and opinions are projections.